First, keep your lips soft and slightly opened, in a gently inviting and receptive way. Don't press them together tightly, but also avoid opening them too wide. Drooling and too much saliva is almost always a turn-off for men and women. On the other hand, some women and men like steamy, sloppy, wet kissing.
You've probably never timed it, but maybe you've wished it lasted longer. In John Gottman's relationship research, he was able to find that six seconds is the length of a kiss that can actually create a connection with your partner. In fact, he recommends you have at least one six-second kiss per day.
Gently touch your lips to your date's lips. No big SMACKS (you're not kissing your grandmother or your dog); no wide-open mouth (you're not trying to devour your partner). Just your lips, about as open as they are when you're just breathing through your mouth.
Line up your mouths so that your upper lip is between their lips and your bottom one is underneath theirs. You can also put their upper lip between yours if that feels more comfortable. Don't push too hard against their lips. It should be soft and romantic, not painful or aggressive.
How long is the ideal kiss? According to the survey, singles say their ideal kiss lasts about 10 seconds. Now, keep in mind, this is only for a kiss — not a make-out sesh. If your steamy make-out adventure only lasts for 10 seconds before you throw in the towel, you just need to do better.
Ease back out of the kiss, keeping yourself close to your partner's face. After the kiss, pull your head back slowly to give each of you some space. If you wrapped a hand around each other, you can lightly ease off, or hold each other close for a more intimate moment. Look your partner in the eyes and smile.
You don't have to use your tongue through the entire make out session. If you want to just kiss without tongue too, it's totally fine. When you ARE using tongue, your go-to move when Frenching can be a massage between your two tongues. You can also try different things and see what feels most comfortable.
Summary. Kissing can transmit many germs, including those that cause cold sores, glandular fever and tooth decay. Saliva can transmit various diseases, which means that kissing is a small but significant health risk. It's not all doom and gloom.
Today, an average kiss lasts more than 12 seconds. In the 1980s, couples came up for air sooner than that: back then an average kiss lasted a mere 5.5 seconds. 3.
Humans are biologically driven to push their faces together and rub noses or touch lips or tongues. At its most basic, kissing is a mating behavior, encoded in our genes.
Most people can't focus on anything as close as a face at kissing distance so closing your eyes saves them from looking at a distracting blur or the strain of trying to focus. Kissing can also make us feel vulnerable or self-conscious and closing your eyes is a way of making yourself more relaxed.
Maintain eye contact before the kiss.
Seeing each other will help you both remember that you're going to enjoy sharing this moment with one another. Eye contact also lets your partner know that you are attentive and interested, which can help them feel more comfortable.
Start slow, be gentle, and stay in the moment. Think of French kissing as massaging your partner's tongue. Whatever you do with your hands, be comfortable. If the kisses aren't doing it for you, don't be shy about giving your partner feedback — and asking for feedback yourself.
Confidently tell her you'd like to kiss her.
"I want to kiss you right now." Unless she says "no," move in slowly after you say it. "I'd love a kiss before I go." "Let's kiss." "Write her a note saying "kiss me?" or "I want to kiss you," if you think she'd like the cute, romantic gesture.
You experience an adrenaline rush: When you kiss someone for the first time, your body will release a burst of adrenaline (the fight-or-flight chemical) which increases your heart rate, boosts your energy levels and gets the blood flowing.
The anticipation of a kiss increases the flow of saliva to your mouth and gives your teeth a plaque-dispersing bath. Bad breath can't be passed on to another person via kissing.
Interestingly, this is largely agreed upon across generations. No need to wait for the official first date to get a little face time, however. Americans agree kids are ready for their first kiss at age 15 (15.1 on average), while on average, they had theirs at age 14.5.
The dopamine released during a kiss can stimulate the same area of the brain activated by heroin and cocaine. As a result, we experience feelings of euphoria and addictive behaviour. Oxytocin, otherwise known as the 'love hormone', fosters feelings of affection and attachment.